Slate Columnist Discusses Reader Experiences with Genital Piercings and Relationship Dynamics
In this edition of Slate's 'How to Do It' advice column, columnist Jessica Stoya addresses reader feedback regarding sexual health and relationship dynamics. The primary focus is a follow-up from a reader whose husband underwent a Prince Albert genital piercing after initially trying a frenum piercing. The reader reports that the procedure significantly enhanced their sexual satisfaction, raising their experience rating from an eight to a nine, and notes they are considering further modifications or additional piercings. Stoya advises the couple to experiment by removing specific jewelry to isolate the source of pleasure and suggests consulting with open-minded piercers about the mechanics of arousal. Additionally, the column features a response to a previous letter about a couple sleeping in separate bedrooms. A reader theorizes that the boyfriend's varying levels of aggression in different rooms might indicate 'switch' dynamics in power exchange. Stoya acknowledges this possibility, discussing the nuances between explicit BDSM structures and subtle, indirect forms of power exchange in relationships, emphasizing that many couples engage in soft power dynamics without formal labels.
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Slate Columnist Discusses Reader Experiences with Genital Piercings and Relationship Dynamics
In this edition of Slate's 'How to Do It' advice column, columnist Jessica Stoya addresses reader feedback regarding sexual health and relationship dynamics. The primary focus is a follow-up from a reader whose husband underwent a Prince Albert genital piercing after initially trying a frenum piercing. The reader reports that the procedure significantly enhanced their sexual satisfaction, raising their experience rating from an eight to a nine, and notes they are considering further modifications or additional piercings. Stoya advises the couple to experiment by removing specific jewelry to isolate the source of pleasure and suggests consulting with open-minded piercers about the mechanics of arousal. Additionally, the column features a response to a previous letter about a couple sleeping in separate bedrooms. A reader theorizes that the boyfriend's varying levels of aggression in different rooms might indicate 'switch' dynamics in power exchange. Stoya acknowledges this possibility, discussing the nuances between explicit BDSM structures and subtle, indirect forms of power exchange in relationships, emphasizing that many couples engage in soft power dynamics without formal labels.
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